Let many say that intimate relationships in the family are not the main thing - but this is not entirely true. Yes, sex life is not dominant, but it is very important. It is the intimate component of the relationship that creates a special emotional connection between a man and a woman. Firstly, intimate relationships give physical relaxation, relieving sexual arousal and tension, and if this is not the case, then all sorts of problems arise. Secondly, intimate life has a positive effect on relationships, they become stronger, closer, etc.

You can talk a lot and analyze the significance of sexual relations in married life, however, if the husband does not want a wife, then this problem must be solved, and not let it take its course. What should girls do if there is no sex with her husband? Let's analyze situations, problems and ways to solve them.

Analysis of the situation

For several weeks or even months, the spouses do not have sex because of the husband, and if at first this situation does not really bother the wife, then in the future this will become her main problem. - this is not just a discharge and satisfaction of physical attraction to a man, it is also a natural need of the body, not to mention the emotional side and the impact of this on relationships.

In this article, we will not touch on older couples, where in most cases the reason for the lack of intimacy is health or age characteristics. Here we will talk about young couples, because the causes of problems in their sexual life, or rather in its absence, can be completely different, from simple to very complex.

In every family, the absence of sexual life develops in different ways. In most cases, this begins with the birth of a child, or in the last months. It can also happen after a certain period of married life, due to a number of other factors. Let's take a look at them.

Causes

The reasons why a husband does not want intimacy with his wife can be divided into several blocks, let's look at them.

parental concerns

So, a young mother just after giving birth, the first months of a baby's life squeeze out all the strength from the parents, both physical and moral, especially if there is no help from relatives or it is insignificant. The main desire of parents: that the baby be calm and fall asleep, so that parents can sleep. And such moments are very rare. It also complicates the situation when the child sleeps with his parents in the same room, and even more so if the apartment is one-room or a young family lives with their parents.

As a result, it turns out that young mom and dad are always tired, as the child requires constant attention, especially if he is constantly in his arms and restless. Mom is with the baby all day from the very morning, while dad earns money. She devotes time to the child, calms him down, lulls him, feeds him, cooks dinner for her husband, cleans, does laundry, etc. It’s even hard to imagine, mommy is like a squeezed lemon, in the evening she just needs to get to bed, what kind of romance and intimacy can we talk about!? During this period, the young mother ceases to pay special attention to her appearance and home appearance in particular.

Coming home from work, the husband also plunges into parental care. Considering also the fact that the child does not let you sleep at night, and in addition a tired wife, all this dulls the desire for physical attraction. The child sleeping next to complicates the whole situation, because both parents want to relax, otherwise everything will be fast and in some “corner”.

Quite often, this problem can be solved, the main thing is the desire to do it. Sometimes, simply, men either ignore this problem, or simply do not want to solve it and make it clear to their young wife what exactly caused the problems in their intimate life.

Fatigue, stress, problems

There are frequent cases when a husband does not want a wife because of constant fatigue, stress and problems of various kinds. In most cases, the source of such a situation is work, when the husband gets tired physically or mentally, a large number of tasks are assigned to his shoulders, he is supervised by tough bosses, or he often encounters stressful situations and problems that may arise not because of work, but for other reasons.

Of course, in this case, all thoughts will be about problems and worries, and about how to protect yourself from all this and calm down. Most often, a man withdraws into himself and tries to be alone with his thoughts, or he finds joy in computer games, reading, etc.

In this state, he has no desire for intimacy, because he wants to do this because of attraction, and not for show, fulfilling his marital duty, where this process is precisely a duty.

Out of love or no attraction

A much more complicated problem is when the husband does not want his wife because he has lost attraction to her, or rather, she does not excite him and does not attract him as a woman. Here the roots of the problem can grow from completely different reasons.

We called this item “out of love and no attraction”, although as life shows, the lack of love is a rather abstract reason for the lack of attraction and intimate life, but, nevertheless, sometimes its absence really has its effect.

Over the long joint years of family life, people, of course, get used to each other, and sometimes, as they say, they get bored, especially in intimate life. The husband for several years lived together has studied and knows his wife inside and out, the sexual life becomes very monotonous and boring, as a result, you just don’t want all this anymore, because it doesn’t deliver that passion, inner fire and pleasure, as before. The same thing often happens to women.

The most common situation is when a husband does not want a wife because of her non-sexual appearance or a boring image: the same hairstyle (which turns into a ponytail at home), a striped dressing gown, terry socks, etc. After all, this is where it all begins. Especially when all this is carried over to weekends: women walk too at home, not bothering about their appearance, when from Sunday evening she begins to pay maximum attention to her appearance, for others, but not for him.

In these cases, intimate relationships can occur between spouses, but very, very rarely, solely as a satisfaction of a physical need.

Separately, it is worth highlighting such a reason as sexual apathy for his wife. A man treats his other half very well, she is very dear and close to him - a dear person, maybe he even loves her, but he does not consider her as a sexual object. She is not something that does not excite him and is not sexual for him, but simply he is not attracted to her attraction. Sometimes the mere thought of this causes some dislike in a man.

Mistress

If the husband no longer wants to sleep with his wife in a figurative, and even in the literal sense, then it is possible that he does not need it, since there is on the side. This is what girls think about in the first place, but this reason is far from in the first place.

In this case, a man may lose his attraction to his wife, since he is in love with another, it is more interesting to do this with her, or he is tired, as he has satisfied all his needs with his mistress.

Searching for the reasons for betrayal is the topic of a separate article, in particular, we have already talked about this in the article,. There are two main reasons why men have mistresses: the so-called lodging (when it’s hard for him to be with only one woman or his wife no longer attracts him) and relationship problems (misunderstandings, quarrels, etc.).

Health problems

Well, another reason why a husband does not want a wife is health problems. This situation is extremely rare, however, it should be mentioned.

Diseases that affect male sexual function can be divided into two groups: general and special. Special - include diseases of the reproductive system, which directly affect the sexual function of a man. The general ones include all other diseases that, due to pain and discomfort, dull the desire for intimacy, or indirectly affect the reproductive system, which also leads to such reluctance.

Ways to solve the problem

As you can see, most of the reasons why a man doesn't want to have sex with his wife lie within himself. However, in some of them, the beautiful half of humanity also appears. And if those problems where the reason lies to a greater extent in the wife are solvable, then where the problem is in the man, they are very difficult to solve.

It is important to understand that for almost all reasons (except the last), both are to blame, in principle, that they have brought their intimate life to such an extent. Even where the reason for the lack of sex in a married couple is the wife, the husband is also to blame, just like vice versa.

Analyze everything

To understand why my husband does not want me, you first need to analyze family life, the domestic atmosphere and other related factors. You also need to understand whether it is intimate relationships that are needed when a woman wants exactly her husband, tenderness, romance, so that it is something more than physiology, or only physiology is needed to satisfy ordinary physical needs, and the husband is the one who should do it . Sometimes, women themselves do not want their husband, they just want physical relaxation, so in such a situation you yourself must understand him.

Very often, girls say that we do not sleep with my husband together, on the same bed - this is where the separation of the spouses begins, both morally and physiologically. A husband and wife must have a marital bed, and while they are married, they must sleep on it together. It should be as convenient and comfortable as possible. Even a blanket should be one for two.

In most cases, the routine and monotony kills intimate life. It not only depends on the way of life, home appearance of the wife, but also on the sex itself, which should be interesting for both, and not go according to the standard classical scheme. In many forums, men say that it is the routine of sex that kills his desire for a wife. For many girls, sometimes even changing positions is something unacceptable, not to mention various games. When, for example, the wife replies to her husband's request for oral sex: well, I'll do it, since you really want it that way - what will the husband's desire be after that !? Of course, when a woman has her own taboos, and something is unpleasant for her, you don’t need to force yourself if you can’t tune in to it.

After analyzing all of the above, maybe you will find the source of the problem and be able to solve it together with your husband. Below we will tell you what you need to do to try to bring sexual relations back into your married life so that the husband and wife want each other.

talk

We need to have a heart to heart talk. Very often, girls complain that they are trying in every way to discuss this topic and problem with their husband, and he avoids talking or resorts to various excuses. It is even worse when the husband does not see the problem at all in the absence of sexual relations with his wife.

It is extremely important to have a heart-to-heart talk so that the husband tells what does not suit him in his wife, in family and intimate life, the wife should also tell her husband about what she does not like about all this. Listen to each other without interrupting, you don’t need to be offended by some words, because you must find the causes of the problem. It is possible that you will need to reconsider your attitude to some issues or change something in yourself. But the initiative and action must come from both spouses.

It is very good in this conversation not to hesitate to tell each other about yours. Perhaps one of these will find the interest and support of another. However, if at first one of the spouses is struck by some of the desires of the other, then there will be nothing wrong with that, but he or she will be, and it happens that, digesting this information, these ideas do not seem so scary and even on the contrary, they begin to like and give birth.

Create the right conditions

An integral part of physical intimacy is the relationship of spouses. Husband and wife should be one, understand each other and be close. The wife, as the keeper of the hearth, must create conditions of comfort, and the husband must contribute to this. Reconsider your relationship, perhaps the atmosphere in your home is far from comfortable and romantic - this can be changed. Get close to your husband, be together as often as possible, communicate, find common topics for conversation, etc.

It is necessary to try to restore order in the apartment, and if possible, rearrange it so that the apartment is comfortable. You don’t need to constantly “nag” your husband, reproach and educate, or, as they say, “take out the brain”.

If the causes of the problem in intimate life are the husband's fatigue, stress, etc., it is very important to help him solve them, and not climb with his bed. It is important to become support for him, to create an oasis at home among the desert of problems, and then it will be possible to solve an intimate problem.

When a child becomes the cause of this family problem, this period just needs to be experienced. However, you can find a couple of hours while the child sleeps to relax and satisfy the physical attraction. You can also ask the parents to sit with the baby for several hours, and rent a room or apartment themselves, and relax there and give yourself to each other.

Well, the last thing we want to mention in this block is the appearance of a woman. Surely the wife knows her husband's taste preferences, what kind of women and what he likes about them. Therefore, you can change something, especially if the image has not been refreshed for a long time: hairstyle, hair color,. It is important to pay attention to your figure, it may be worth sitting on. Be sure to take care of yourself in general, and in particular at home, charming your husband. When there is a beauty in front of him with a manicure, depilation, in a beautiful dressing gown with a twist, this will not leave him indifferent.

Variety will help

Diversity will help solve the problem, and in everything. It is necessary to try to bring something new into ordinary life: trips, hobbies, friends, etc. Thanks to this, a coil of something new will give positive results. However, it is very important. You can make a new one based on the desires of each other, here it is very important to be liberated and not be afraid.

If the problem lies in the fact that the wife herself does not attract the husband, then you can resort to petting, many couples note the positive result of this method in their intimate life. You can turn on relaxing music, videos of a certain genre, etc.

Difficult situations to resolve

When the husband’s illness becomes the reason for the lack of intimate life, the wife needs to make every effort to help in the treatment. There is simply no other solution to the problem in this case.

Nevertheless, there are very difficult situations when nothing depends on the wife, the husband closes himself and ignores everything. If all methods are in vain, there are three options left: find a lover, leave your husband, or reconcile. It is in such difficult situations that psychological counseling is very helpful.

We wish you success!

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I encountered such a problem for the first time. in my second marriage .. and the most interesting thing is at the very beginning of the relationship, never before with anyone like this .. the first husband didn’t get off me at all, let’s say this .. I try to always look in good shape with him and etc. nothing helps, it’s also in vain to bring a heart-to-heart talk. and it’s not at all clear why a woman should do everything, and what men should?

I have the same story .. We have been living together for 4 years, my daughter is 8 months old .. He even went to sleep from us in another room, I know that he is meeting with his mistress ... I tried to talk to him, it was useless, he kept saying one thing - that he loves me and my daughter , and what to do and how to continue to live with him, I do not know.

The same story. Married for three years, already the fourth one. My daughter will be 3 years old. We have sex every three months. And not more often) I tried everything - I took the initiative in my own hands, seduced, in principle everything is fine (he never refuses) but always on my initiative. sometimes it seems to me that he can live without sex at all. I don’t even think about infidelity, it’s out of the question. , but nothing changes. and I would very much like a bright personal life))) all the more I am sure that the nerves will be better, that is, the marriage will be happier.

There are many reasons for starting a family. But basically family life is built on love and the desire to be together. Long years of living together, everyday life, quarrels can lead to the fact that interest in a partner disappears. What to do if you are tired of your wife? Is this a reason for divorce, or can you try to “reanimate” feelings?

Why does the wife bother

In the situation that has arisen, the woman is looking for the guilty. It is important to understand the essence of a man. He is tired of the monotony. By nature, men are polygamous. Therefore, if partners do not try to refresh the relationship in any way, a man, in search of diversity, goes deep into work or looks for new emotions “on the side”.

Very often, having lived for many years in a marriage with one woman, men begin to “look to the left”

The main reasons why a husband is tired of his wife:

1. Wife - "drank". Men do not like to be constantly reproached or taught about life. From such a woman you want to run away without looking back. Moreover, in such a situation it may seem to a woman that the truth is on her side, and the reproaches are justified. But it’s worth considering whether the husband is really so guilty that he needs to be “sawed”. So close to divorce. After all, every patience comes to an end sooner or later. Even strong love can be destroyed by constantly repeated reproaches.
2. A woman's perception of a man as a "purse of money." A man has always been perceived as a breadwinner, and a woman is a mistress, a mother, responsible for comfort in the house. But if a woman too often asks for money from her earner, he may get tired of it. The way out of this situation is to send her to work.
3. Wife misunderstanding. Lack of understanding between partners destroys relationships and marriage. You can discuss the accumulated problems in a calm dialogue, for example, during dinner with a glass of wine.

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These are the most common reasons why a man says that he is tired of living with his wife.

He doesn't pay attention to me!

Women like men's attention when their problems are listened to and help is offered. But what if you came home from work tired, hoping to relax, and your beloved reproaches you for inattention? A man by nature does not focus on trifles.

He is attracted to more global affairs. He may not notice the changed shade of the hair of his beloved or new blouse. This happens not because he does not love her, but because he is tired, carried away by other thoughts, or perceives his woman as a whole, and not in the context of trifles.

A lot of men admit that their wife is tired of them for the simple reason that they are constantly “cutting”

The nature of the female sex is different. The girl tries to look good for her man, but he did not appreciate her impulse. The selfish nature requires more and more attention, your thoughts should be occupied with it. But because of work, fatigue, you may simply not have time for this. There are insults, there are reproaches. And sooner or later the husband comes to the conclusion that the wife is tired of her grievances. The man feels trapped. He perceives love from the side of the result, not the process.

And a woman needs to constantly feel loved, to see that she is being paid attention. The result - the wife is tired of her grievances. It is better to show her that she is dear to you. Give her small gifts throughout the year, not just on special occasions.

Tired wife: what to do?

Here are some simple tips to help build relationships:

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1. Accept her weirdness. Try to understand her real motives. For what reasons does she do this - selfish or for the good of the family. Women always try to push a man to work. Take the situation as an impulse for the good of your future.
2. Speak with a future perspective. To reassure your wife, it is enough to convince her that new opportunities are opening up before you, and you will definitely take advantage of them. Such an optimistic forecast will reassure the wife. She will get better, become more affectionate.
3. Keep her busy. When a person has nothing to do, he looks for something to cling to. Try to keep your soul mate busy. Send to work or ask to pay more attention to children, home. Just be sure to praise her. So she will understand that you appreciate her work.

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To save your marriage, if you're tired of your wife's whining, try talking to her about it. Try to describe the situation from your side, explain your feelings. A wise woman will hear you and try to change the situation in order to save the family. Perhaps she, too, has accumulated reproaches in your direction. After a constructive conversation, you can come to the right decision.

Perhaps the most important reason why a man says that his wife is tired of him is because the wife ceases to understand her husband.

If the wife is tired of her husband, not everyone knows what to do in this situation. If there is a desire to save a family, you can try to understand what each of you needs.

If feelings are preserved, you can add brightness to them, change something in your life:

1. Communicate more with each other. Any problem can be solved if we discuss it together. Be open about what annoys or worries you. In a conversation, you can find the reason for the loss of mutual understanding. Think together about what can be changed.
2. Reminisce about good times spent together. If you are tired of your wife and children, you can remember the happy moments together when there were no domestic issues. Remembering a happy past, you can understand whether you want to be together further, to improve relations.
3. Break free from routine. Daily household issues and stress, monotony can kill even the strongest feelings. Try to surprise your soul mate, change your image, arrange a romantic date, spend the weekend together not at home. To get rid of the routine, you need to constantly surprise each other.
4. Add adrenaline to the relationship. Extreme dates make a couple more united. Ride horses together, try skydiving, ride a roller coaster.
5. Get your husband to do something. You can give him a subscription to the gym or swimming pool. Any activity will allow him to escape from the routine and relieve tension, get rid of the thought that he is tired of his wife.

If you are not a complete alarmist, then a week or two without sex will not bother you much.

You never know what happens to people: stress, poor health, trouble at work. But if the situation drags on, and for months you have to beg your husband for warmth and affection in your own bed, then it's time to ring the bells. Not very loud, of course: the piercing howl of a siren will scare away the last vibes in the soul and body of a man, even if they still remain.

So, it is necessary to determine the level of hopelessness of the problem. There are only two of them: the end of the relationship and a break that gives a respite and a chance for a new outbreak. In any of these cases, most of the useful tips in this article will turn out to be universal: both options require not to lose shape, self-respect and respect from a partner, even if his desire is lost forever.

What is the first thing to do when a husband does not want a wife?

To start stop the tantrum. Panic attacks, scenes of jealousy, angry choking and other accompaniments of such situations are normal and standard. Even for those ladies who are considered by others to be the owners of the cold blood of a reptile, and their husbands are frigid statues, similar periods are painful and painful. There is always a place for wounded pride, if not love.

So do breathing exercises, count to ten, buy rags, get drunk with a friend and cry on her shoulder, in the end. Just do not harass your man with ugly scenes, losing your face in his eyes and the remnants of a warm friendly, if not sexual relationship.

A rare exception: if your husband is a pathological masochist or a very peculiar extremist, then a little thrashing may stir up former desires. But here one must be very careful: not everyone likes these games, and two or three random “reconciliations” will slightly improve the weather in the house, but the general climate will remain the same.

So, you are outwardly calm and ready to reason, plan and correct the situation. Your heart beats evenly or almost evenly. The fight for your husband begins!

What to do with yourself if your husband does not want you as a woman?

Why does the husband not want a wife?

The main reasons for the cooling of sexual ardor

Parental chores

If you are a young mother, then the lack of intimacy is an easily explained thing. A beloved but restless baby demands all your attention, and when the tired breadwinner comes home, then his father's too. Physical and moral strength is running out, and the bed evokes associations only with sound sleep. If you do not have a separate nursery, then the newly-made father, who is not used to a small roommate, can completely withdraw. He already has a baby in his arsenal, whimpering at the most inopportune moment, a wife dying of fatigue, who, moreover, does not have time to take care of herself, and, God forbid, mother-in-law or mother behind a thin wall. In such a situation, the main thing is to survive, and no longer up to libido.

Such cases are by no means hopeless if your husband is not from that nasty breed that can stop loving because you have gained weight after childbirth or the shape of, say, your breasts has changed. Unfortunately, there are quite a lot of such complete egoists. And, no matter how painful it is for you to lose such a husband, his loss will be your step towards a normal life.

But let's be optimistic: your husband, although he doesn't want his wife, loves her. Ask your mother, mother-in-law, neighbor, friend or nanny to take the baby to her at least for the evening. Use this time wisely: take a fragrant bath, clean yourself up, light candles and order dinner from the restaurant if you didn’t have time to cook something edible. Seduce your husband like a movie femme fatale. He will probably go crazy with surprise so much that your victory should be easy.

Husband does not want a wife: stress, problems, overwork

It often happens that a husband would like a wife, but he can’t: constant fatigue after work, work stress and various similar problems. In most cases, the culprit in this situation is work. In this case, the husband is physically and mentally exhausted. An unbearable burden of worries is on his shoulders, the bosses are sitting “on his head”, the engine of the car is knocking. Moreover, the idiot son brought home three deuces in mathematics - and who is he so stupid in!

Most likely, he will withdraw into himself and prefer to spend any free minute alone - at the computer or with a book in his hands, and not in bed with his wife. Because in this state, the thought of sex is associated with another frightening duty - this time a marital one.

Seduce this man again, once you have already succeeded. Since he is still benevolent, respectful and affectionate with you, and after work he drags his mortal body exactly home, maybe not everything is lost to you?

Husband fell out of love or just does not want a wife

This problem is much more complicated than the previous ones: the husband does not want his wife because of the loss of attraction to her as a woman.

If he is simply bored, bored, he is fed up with your identical everyday life, your homely “outfit” in striped socks and a faded bathrobe, then positive changes can be achieved simply by changing the scenery. Then the favorite stretched robe from the time of the great-grandmother will go to the closet or to the trash, socks will take their rightful place in the chest of drawers, and they will be replaced by a glossy penyuarchik or knitted tight-fitting trouser suit.

And don't forget to get rid of the messy crown ponytail that nests on your head at home! There is nothing sexual about it, so convenience will have to be sacrificed.

He sees in what form you go to work: well-groomed and attractive, in the best outfits. Is he, the husband, really unworthy of at least the shadow of that beauty that passers-by and employees see?

This case of male reluctance smoothly flows into another: you are so different at home and in public that the dearest man in the world simply does not understand why and for whom such a carnival is, if you have to be alone with Baba Yaga. And you, it was, relaxed, decided that he loves you and like that, you don’t have to try.

This myth was inspired by novels and TV shows: love and desire must be fed, provoked into outbursts, constantly stroked on the head and fed with nectar. Perhaps then it will take root and bloom wildly according to all the known laws deduced by the old man Freud.

Sexual apathy: the husband organically does not want his wife

He treats his wife extremely warmly, as a dear and close person, but does not consider him as a sexual object. Anything takes place: friendship, understanding, agreement, but not attraction. It may even happen that the mere thought of having sex with a wife-friend will cause dislike in a man. It is impossible to predict which path your relationship will take in such a situation. It all depends on whether you are ready, like Assol, to wait for scarlet sails by the sea, on which there are no ships? Are you patient enough to hope for success in a situation where your husband doesn't want you, and most likely won't want you anymore?

Husband doesn't want wife because of rival

Sex without love is devastating. Many psychologists agree on this. If the husband no longer wants you, then perhaps he just fell in love. And it's not even that he has enough sex on the side, just the objects of his languid sighs and serenades at the moment is another woman. You remember how proud of his ardent glances, turned only on you.

Do not look for a meeting with an opponent, do not try to determine who is better. This will deprive you of the last strength, already undermined by a long sexual hunger.

The solution to this situation also depends on your willingness to wait and forgive.

Husband's love can pass. Romance - evaporate. The course of life is to return to the old course.

Many real cases confirm this: husbands returned to bed with their wives after the most dizzying romances. They returned, cooling down after an affair, and remained in this bed forever, "working up" ardor, experience, a variety of impressions "on the side."

And the spouses who knew how to wait again got devoted and sexually strong machos, ready for the exploits of the sexual front.

A husband does not want a wife because he cannot want her...

In a disease of this nature, not every husband admits to himself, let alone to you. These circumstances make men withdraw into themselves much more than in the first cases. After all, here He, still young and strong, feels like a flawed, crippled, inferior man. He is driven into a corner and “rewarded” with severe depression by the inability to get excited at all: neither from your erotic lingerie, nor from watching explicit videos, nor from taking magic pills.

Diseases that affect the sexual function of men are divided into two groups: general and special.

Special - diseases of the reproductive system that directly affect male sexual capabilities.

General - other ailments that, due to pain and discomfort, dull intimate desires.

Fortunately, medicine in the 21st century is able to solve many problems. And this case just belongs to the category of options when you can put pressure on and present some kind of ultimatum of moderate severity. After all, it is not so much about sexual bliss, but about the health or even the life of your soulmate.

What should be done in all scenarios without exception? At worst, you will simply improve your appearance and not lose self-respect, at best, you will return everything to normal.

1. Think carefully about the course of action and possible risks. Forcing a husband or under torture to find out from him the reasons for unwillingness is a dead end. Throwing tantrums is useless, threatening is even worse.

2. Calmly and thoroughly talk with your husband "heart to heart."

3. If in his explanations you see the contours of any of the situations described, act according to our advice.

4. Regardless of the results of the "interrogation", take care of yourself. Remember the last time you visited a hairdresser, masseur, beautician. Sign up for a gym or just start jogging in the morning - maybe even with your spouse.

5. Try to penetrate his world without signs of mental violence: go fishing or paintball together, yell together at a football stadium or hippodrome. Probably, the husband is just lonely and does not want to sleep with a strange woman who does not understand his tastes.

6. Add tenderness and romance to your life. Diversify the weekend and do not overload the duties of the already difficult modern everyday life. Romantic evenings, surprises and relaxing holidays will help melt not only his heart, but also some of the functions of the male body you are looking for.

7. Tell your husband about your piquant fantasies. Sometimes curiosity can even defeat resentment, not to mention boredom and despondency. Role-playing games within the tastes of two loving spouses will be condemned only by the last hypocrite.

8. Feel that you are desirable. In the end, convince yourself of this - such impudence can become contagious!

The husband does not want a wife, but he will definitely want to

Being a desirable woman is a great science. At all times, women who sell desire at a high level were required to get an education, master the art of dance, music, and special grace. Japanese geishas and French courtesans incessantly looked after the skin of the face and body, the silkiness of their hair and the softness of their hands, pursuing one single goal - to please men.

The ability to charm and seduce your man again and again, even imitating such seemingly unworthy persons, is really a huge job. But the result of such work is worth the effort, isn't it?

December 13, 2014

Some interesting statistics. The overwhelming majority of readers of this site are women.

Indeed, women are more inclined to seek solutions to their problems, discuss them and ask for advice. Men, on the other hand, are more likely to hush up their problems, because a man is strong and steadfast, he will deal with his problems himself, right?

Based on these statistics, I am increasingly starting to write articles with an eye specifically on the female audience. But resentment is a universal thing, and therefore it is impossible not to touch on men's feelings. The fact that men don't like to talk openly about their problems doesn't mean that women experience resentment on average more often than men. In addition, resentment experienced by men can often be stronger due to the fact that they do not often give it an outlet.

In what ways does a man experience resentment? Of course, in relatives. And of course, one of these relationships is marriage. It often happens that a young man falls in love without memory and, against the backdrop of sweet expectations of a happy future together, makes a woman an offer. And of course, if the feelings are mutual, at first the relationship is really a fairy tale.

But after a few years, the man suddenly begins to realize that the fairy tale that he painted for himself in his imagination does not correspond to reality at all. And the reason for this is a lack of awareness, a lack of understanding of how women really work, and a lack of knowledge of what should be expected of them. But instead of understanding the situation, he would prefer to withdraw into himself and endure, endure, endure. Until sooner or later the threshold is crossed, and a quarrel occurs, varying in its strength from medium to catastrophic.

I note that this is monogamous relationships. That is, it is expected that the husband and wife will sleep only with each other until the very end, that is, until death or divorce separates. And no one is cheating on anyone, has never cheated and will never cheat. It is immediately clear that the initial premises are not the most realistic, but we will talk about resentment in open and “closed” relationships another time. In the meantime, here's how a wife can hurt her husband without realizing it.

How a Wife Hurts Her Husband in 6 Different Ways

1. Denial of sex. This is not without reason in the first place, since this is almost the surest way to ruin a man's life in marriage. Dear women, every time you refuse sex to your regular sexual partner, it is a painful blow.

You see what's the matter ... Let's talk openly. Men are lustful animals. They want sex all the time. Whether married or not. Though he is 20 years old, even if he is 50. Rich or poor, ugly or handsome, a young sexy male fucker-bachelor or a modest middle-aged fat man-loser-married. In sadness or joy, in grief or resentment - men always want sex.

Of course, the frequency of the question varies from man to man. Libido is different for everyone - someone wants sex 5 times a week, someone even once will be enough. It doesn't change the essence. The bottom line is that regardless of his character, he expects that since he is with a woman, and he has a relationship with her, this automatically implies regular sex with her. Always.

Yes, yes, I know what you can say. “It is not my duty to satisfy him.” “I am not a prostitute for him, I am the wife and mother of his children”, “Sex is not the most important thing”. But here's the thing - if you're marrying him, if you want a happy relationship, and your relationship is monogamous, I have news for you. It is your duty to fuck your husband. And for your husband, sex is very important, even if it is not the most important thing in a marital relationship. Why is this so important to him? Because he is not only a caring father and faithful husband, but also a lustful animal, as I mentioned above.

Does this mean that I blame or reproach women? In no case! . Therefore, it is necessary to go through the husbands.

Husbands, remember! Did you really expect that that honeymoon that you had at sea, when you fucked with your freshly baked wife several times a day, was the norm? Or is the first year of your relationship the way it will always be? I have news for you - women are biologically designed in such a way that they get bored with the same man in a long-term monogamous relationship over time.

Do you know why? Because the genetic code that people carry in themselves has not changed for millions of years. And this code programmed women to look for the right male who would provide them with offspring and would protect this offspring (which is funny, these two roles can be performed separately by two different men). How long does it need to be protected for it to get back on its feet and be able to escape? 20 years? 15 years? 10 years? No, less years than the fingers on one hand.

Therefore, from a biological point of view, a woman is “not interested” in sleeping with you for 20 years as it was in the first years of your marriage. Because if you have been living together for a long time, then from a biological, sexual, animal point of view, you are no longer perceived by a woman as a man with whom she sleeps. At least not as much as it used to be. Now you are more like a relative to her, and biology does not allow sleeping with relatives.

But what about emotions? We are not animals, we are people, and not everything is controlled by biology. Yes, this is true, not everything is decided by biology. But emotions are exactly the same biology, and they serve to ensure that you fulfill your biological program. Your male biology has programmed you for sex throughout your life. The point is not that we have more than just biology. The bottom line is that the biology of men and women when it comes to the sexual component of relationships is completely different. She needs to get offspring from a quality male from sex. And you, men, from sex need to spread your biological material across planet Earth. And no social adjustments from above can drown out this fundamental difference between male and female biology, no matter how society denies it, trying to equalize men and women or reduce the importance of biology to nothing.

What does all this mean in terms of the subject matter of this site? After all, the site is not dedicated to evolutionary psychology, but to resentment. And it means the same as always. on his wife, men. If you don’t like the fact that the frequency of sex is decreasing, write it down on paper. And then, when you clean up the offense and see the situation as it is, you will be able to decide what to do. And perhaps you will understand that from now on you can no longer expect that the same woman will be the source of your male joy and satisfaction all your life. But more on that another time...

2. Permanent commands. We are talking about women with a more dominant character. Such women consider themselves “strong and independent”, and in practice this is expressed in attempts to constantly control the situation. In case of discrepancy between the situation and the scenario of events, directives are issued to correct the vector. Such women have a vector for everything, including their husband. So it falls to him, poor fellow.

Here again, men, wake up! A woman commands you only because you allow her to. Yes, there are men who like to obey a woman, but this is not about them. They do not feel offended by this kind of communication with a woman. Therefore, if you are reading these lines, most likely you are not one of them. Clear your mind, rake out all your fears and limiting beliefs, because of which you are not able to resist a woman. And there it will be clear what to do.

3. Attempts to change it. Women marry expecting a man to change over time. Men marry hoping that a woman will never change. Please, here's Venus and Mars, that's it. A man marries, hoping that everything will be as it was at the very beginning. A stable relationship is one that doesn't change.

Give a man a beautiful, smart, cool woman with big breasts and / or an elastic ass + a set of all the qualities he likes, and he will be happy. If only it never changed, always remained as it is.

But this is only from a male point of view. From a female point of view, stable relationships are those that have development. Women are more dynamic beings than men.

Women, first of all, with that very dominant character, expect that a man will adapt to new circumstances and, as a result, change if necessary.

Amendment - change if necessary to her. Personally, he may not have any intention of changing, for why? And so everything is fine. But the fact that his wife now and then criticizes him and hints that it is impossible to do this, or that it should be better, this eventually begins to settle in him in the form of resentment.

4. Excessive use of the phrases “You always…”, “You never…”, etc. Oh, women love it. "You never help my mom." "You always leave the toilet seat up." And well, are you really ready to swear that he Always doing something or never doesn't do something there? You don't have to answer, I already know the answer.

Again, the trick is the difference between the communication styles of men and women. The fact that for men and for women these words mean different things. For a man, the words “always” and “never” are determined by their lexical meanings, which can be found in the explanatory dictionary. For a woman, these words are subject to the expression of those emotions that she experiences at one time or another. And if the emotions are strong enough, they bypass the linguistic filters in a woman's head, and, ultimately, are displayed in the form of the words "always" and "never".

Men, do not attach any importance to this - just get used to the fact that women work this way - there will be less resentment. Do not cling to the words, you are taking them out of context - the context of her emotional state here and now. And the resentment that you have already accumulated - what do we do with it? We are working on it, of course. Without pity.

5. Making him responsible for his emotional well-being. It should be noted that not only women do this, everyone does it. And men, and old people, and children. And in relation to everything around. It's not me who's offended, it's you who offended me. It's not me who is a fool and a lazy person, this state is bad and steals. Etc.

But still, if we compare men and women in marital relationships, women more often behave with men in such a way that it is the husband's fault that she is in a bad mood. An interesting seeming contradiction. On the one hand, women are more emotional, and on the other hand, they are less likely to realize what causes their emotions. And as a result, they do not realize that when they blame their husband for their emotions, nothing changes. He doesn't understand what he can do to you. Other than apologizing for nothing on the machine to calm you down.

But men, again, the responsibility for the offense is on you. You, too, do not shine with awareness if you suffer from such situations. After all, it happened that your wife directed her bad mood at you, and you have already formed a sense of guilt in yourself. Then you take responsibility for her bad mood on yourself and begin to accumulate resentment, slowly hating yourself more and more along the way. No problem, work it out.

6. Indifference to his efforts. Do you want to hurt your husband? Stop appreciating what he regularly does for you and your children.

A single man does not need so much money to maintain his existence at the same level. This means that a lot of his motivation to work harder is you and possibly your kids. Alas, often this is not realized or forgotten over time.

A single man does not need to help your mother, fool himself with communication with your relatives, or be faithful for decades. Alas, often this is not realized or forgotten over time.

By no means do I mean that men in marriage make greater efforts to preserve them than women. Not at all. Forgetfulness in relation to each other is a universal human defect, inherent in both men and women. Fortunately, you can fight it - after all, studies were invented for a reason.

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Intimacy between spouses is a pleasure that holds marriage together. If a woman feels desired by her soulmate, her self-esteem and self-image changes for the better, she practically blossoms and believes that her relationship with her husband is developing properly. I want every family to have such an atmosphere. Still, it is not uncommon for problems to arise based on the fact that the husband does not want a wife. The advice of a psychologist in such a situation will help to understand the reasons and understand what to do next.

Why does the husband not want a wife?

The first thing to do is to find out the main reasons why a husband does not want a wife, and also to understand the psychology of the stronger sex, who may not even suspect that their partners are very worried about the current atmosphere.

There are many reasons, but in most cases, the decrease in intimate interest is associated with three points.

1. The woman began to bore her partner because she became too domestic. She becomes so good, tame, shows such care that her husband cannot be sexually attracted to her. Her main concerns are cooking delicious food, doing laundry, cleaning the house, bringing slippers to her beloved when he comes home from work, etc. As a result, he ceases to feel sexual attraction to her. If at the beginning of family life such behavior can be quite satisfactory, then, in the end, excessive domestication of the half naturally reduces his interest in her.
2. The other extreme of a woman - excessive superiority over your partner. When he feels that the beloved begins to surpass him, for example, mentally, financially, various problems develop, including the loss of sexual interest.
3. Seeing there are many beautiful girls around who are in no hurry to hide their external advantages, the stronger sex, figuratively speaking, wants to expand its "harem". He likes unexplored spaces, and his half ceases to interest him. Sinful flesh sometimes causes strong desires, and not to the one to whom it should be.

If a wife does not want a husband, the reasons are already different. Among them are such as resentment against her husband, life problems, physical abuse, fatigue, and so on. Psychology is very different, therefore, the reasons for the loss of interest in a loved one are different.

It is sad that many ladies, having felt a weakening or lack of sexual interest in themselves, are convinced that their beloved men are cheating on them. Often times it shouldn't be taken so literally! If a husband does not want a wife, in 50% of cases this indicates that his psychology is only preparing for the alleged adultery. It doesn't always happen consciously. Do not think that the loss of sexual interest in your spouse does not bother or surprise men. First of all, it is important for women to change their thinking and start fighting for the attention of a loved one!

What if the husband does not want a wife? First of all, show understanding. Do not aggravate the situation with scandals! This definitely goes against the advice of a psychologist. The husband does not specifically cease to be interested in his wife, and such a situation can cause anxiety for him, but not everyone will say this. No matter how difficult it is, it is important to step over grievances and misunderstandings. But you should not let everything go by itself, otherwise it will be much more difficult to fix everything, and sometimes it will not work at all.

The advice of a psychologist will help to understand the personality of a man, the reasons for his behavior. Then useful involve the man in some form of joint activity(not sexy!). It can be shopping, excursion, sports, going to the cinema, etc. The next stage will be the so-called sexual offensive. To activate partner, you can and even need to use the following methods:

• go to the sauna and provoke a man to the sex pool;
• in a sexy bathrobe, take attractive poses next to a partner, frankly demonstrate prominent parts of the body;
• offer to plunge into the past and have sex, for example, in a car;
• offer to watch a movie, have a drink together, for example, wine, and then sit on her husband's lap in an attractive position;
• set your husband’s alarm clock 30 minutes earlier so that he doesn’t know, in the morning after he goes to the bathroom, reveal the secret and drag him to bed.

But all these actions can be useless if the hostess forgets about one important point. Often a husband does not want intimacy with his wife if she behaves incorrectly and does not care about how she looks! Yes, dear representatives of the beautiful half of humanity need to remember that the stronger sex ceases to be sexually attracted to them if they:

• often argue and throw tantrums;
• look bad;
• lose sexual activity.

It is important to remember that a lot depends on the character. Being a true woman means keeping calm, respecting the supremacy of the spouse and bringing him joy! And is it worth saying that the appearance of women is important? Why not go to a beauty salon, get a beautiful haircut, hairstyle, manicure, update your wardrobe? And now it’s worth removing “why not” from this sentence, then it remains “go, do, update”. It takes time, effort and money, but a woman is desirable when she is beautiful and charming in the eyes of her beloved!

If a husband does not want intimacy with his wife or a wife does not want a husband, the reasons are quite understandable. We need to act on them.

Love and sexual attraction must be fought for, and those who put a lot of effort win!