When getting married, all young couples are sure that their family will be the strongest and happiest. But in order for a “reliable rear” to truly remain so, both husband and wife will have to make a lot of effort, mutual understanding and patience. And this is where it’s worth talking about such a concept as “marital duty.”

What is marital duty in the relationship between spouses?

In the first months after the painting, fulfilling marital duties gives the newlyweds exceptional pleasure. But, alas, over time, everyday life and a number of other circumstances of family life after the wedding begin to take over.

And one of the common problems in families is that the wife refuses to fulfill her marital duty or does it reluctantly. If we are not talking about the lack of love and the presence of a third person in a relationship, then we can identify a number of reasons that negatively affect the sex life of spouses.

What affects the quality of a couple’s intimate relationship:

It is so inherent in nature that a woman is more relaxed about the intimate side of the issue; for a man, on the contrary, it is very important to receive “satiation” and pleasure from his wife. Otherwise, he goes looking for sexual satisfaction on the side.

Any of us can make our husband fall in love with us again and again. You just have to take care of yourself, envelop your spouse with care and attention, develop and be an interesting conversationalist, and don’t be afraid of sexual “discoveries.”

A morally and physically satisfied man is unlikely to go “left”. But if problems arise in the family with sexual satisfaction, it is worthwhile either on your own or with the help of a specialist to understand the psychology of family relationships.

Marital Debt Law

In the fall of 2016, deputy E.B. Mizulina proposed introducing fine for men who shirk their marital duty or perform it, let’s say, without much enthusiasm. Moreover, the minimum norm for men under 45 years old is also stipulated - once a week! Time will tell whether the bill will be passed. But at the moment, in the Family Code of the Russian Federation there are no obligations or prohibitions regarding intimate relationships in married couples. Therefore, if a wife or husband does not fulfill their marital duty, it is unlikely that they will be punished by law.

The exception is a marriage contract. Here you can indicate how many times a week your wife/husband should perform marital duties and other important points for you. At the same time, the points should not contradict current legislation (prostitution, humiliation of human dignity, etc.).

And yet, what is marital duty according to the law:

• Pair equally resolves joint issues relating to family life;
• Husband and wife have the right to independently choose their occupation, profession, place of residence and stay;
• The responsibilities of spouses include building family relationships on mutual assistance and respect. Each of the couple should help strengthen the family and participate in its well-being, take care of the development and well-being of the children.

This question was very often placed in a Google search, which led to the portal and this made me think that there are women who are depressed by this difficult situation when their husbands shy away from intimate relationships with them. Also I guess there are many other women who are struggling with this problem but don't have the courage to tell anyone. In this article, I want to present several possible reasons that may motivate a man to shirk his marital obligation to maintain an intimate relationship with his wife.

1. The husband does not realize that sexual relations are a marital duty

Marriage is a holy covenant made between a man and a woman before God. The Almighty stands guard over this covenant and over how the parties fulfill their duties. That's why the Apostle Paul wrote this:

The husband show his wife due favor; likewise is a wife to her husband. The wife has no power over her body, but the husband does; Likewise, the husband has no power over his body, but the wife does. Do not deviate from each other, except by agreement, for a while, to exercise in fasting and prayer, and then be together again, so that Satan does not tempt you with your intemperance. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)

Because people today do not go to church or read or study the Word of God, they do not realize or even know that maintaining a sexual relationship with a marriage partner is a sacred duty. I am sure that many who choose to read this article will be surprised when they read that this is written in the Holy Scriptures and that this is the order established by God.

2.This is a way of revenge

Sometimes a husband takes revenge for certain things by not wanting to maintain an intimate relationship. But many unwise women also resort to this bad method, who thus create even greater problems for the future.

3.This is a way of manipulation

Manipulation occurs when people create certain situations and circumstances that force another to do things that go against the will of that person. In any marriage, one partner is more eager for intimacy than the other. Thus, the less thirsty person can sometimes resort to a method of manipulation in which he wants to force another to do something contrary to his will. Manipulation of any kind is evil, but when one of the spouses uses intimate relationships for this purpose, he causes deep wounds to the marriage partner and will suffer from this in the future.

4. Maybe the husband is offended...

In his letter to the Colossians, the Apostle Paul wrote this admonition to husbands:

Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. (Colossians 3:19)

To be offended means to constantly think about the bad things that your wife did to you, to be angry, and this is all because of non-forgiveness. You cannot live with such an attitude in marriage, no matter what happens. In order not to be offended, you must forgive completely. And until you forgive your marriage partner, you cannot free yourself from this resentment that has shackled your heart and stolen your joy. This is one of the reasons why a husband does not want to maintain an intimate relationship with his wife, because the resentment in his heart kills any sexual desire for his wife. And something else important. Resentment usually remains in the heart when some conflict has not been fully resolved, or when someone does not want to ask for forgiveness. To avoid finding yourself in such a situation one day, ask for forgiveness every time. And we, men, must not forget that it is no coincidence that this commandment was given to men - we are more vulnerable and more susceptible to holding a grudge in our hearts. Let us guard ourselves from this dangerous condition that affects intimate relationships in marriage and everyday relationships with our loved ones and with all people.

5. Your husband no longer finds you attractive.

We all change over time, and unfortunately, we don't look the same at 40 as we did at 20. A wise husband should know how to admire his wife and save his feelings only for her. Wise Solomon teaches all married men in the book of Proverbs:

May your source be blessed; and take comfort in the wife of your youth, the dear doe and the beautiful brimstone: let her breasts intoxicate you at all times, delight in her love constantly. (Proverbs of Solomon 5:18-19)

There is also a second side here. A wise wife learns and knows how to look attractive to her husband all the days of her life and how to “please him constantly.”

6. Possibly a problem with potency

Impotence is the inability of a man to initiate or maintain sexual intercourse with his wife to completion. The reasons may be psychological and organic. Whatever the reasons, they cannot become known until the husband consults a competent doctor. Unfortunately, men are very afraid of this diagnosis and some even prefer to avoid intimate relationships with their wives rather than go to the doctor. And one more thing. If a wife directly or indirectly expresses her rejection or doubt about her husband's sexual qualities, this can seriously affect the husband's self-esteem and can provoke psychological impotence, or even more serious consequences. Men have a great need to hear compliments from their wives for the quality of love provided.

7. My husband lacks initiative

God, even before the creation of the world, established that the initiative comes from a man:

Therefore a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife; and they will be one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)

The society we live in unfortunately encourages more women to take the initiative and discourages men from being the initiators. This is then reflected in families, when the husband expects his wife to take the initiative in making decisions, maintaining the house, etc. a wise wife will always appreciate and encourage her husband's good initiative and will never discount or disdain his initiative to make love. I remember one day a new convert who was in the process of getting a divorce came to me for advice because her husband had left for another woman. She told me with tears in her eyes that immediately after the marriage, her husband very often encouraged her to have intimate relationships and she refused him for various reasons. So, very soon, he went to work abroad and found another woman there. There is no excuse for him, but maybe if this woman wisely responded to her husband’s wishes, if she accepted him, perhaps today they would be happy together. However, there are many families who live together, but who are not one and have no feelings for each other, because the wife constantly rejects the wishes of the husband.

8. Imposing excessive control

God says in His Word:

The wife has no power over her body, but the husband does; Likewise, the husband has no power over his body, but the wife does. (1 Corinthians 7:4)

When one of the partners begins to impose his own rules in bed and does not take into account the wishes of the husband or wife, this will be an imposition of excessive control and will bring suffering, quarrels, destroy feelings and ultimately lead to complete cooling in the relationship. Don’t be surprised later that your husband avoids maintaining a sexual relationship.

9. Getting through the crisis

Worries and fatigue greatly affect a person’s sexual desires. Perhaps your husband has some problems at work, which causes him to worry a lot. You may or may not be aware of these problems. There are many wives who are never interested in their husband’s problems, his successes, and this is neither right nor good. Try to understand your husband’s problems or experiences and help him in any way you can to get through them. After this, your intimate relationships will be restored or will be much better than before.

10. Treason

The hardest thing can be when your spouse has fallen into adultery, or maybe has not yet reached this point, but it seems that he has already set his sights on another. The Word of God says:

And why do you, my son, get carried away by strangers and embrace someone else’s breasts? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and He measures all his paths. The lawless one is caught by his own iniquities, and he is kept in the bonds of his sin: he dies without instruction, and is lost from the multitude of his madness. (Proverbs of Solomon 5:20-23)

From the moment a husband or wife begins to become attracted to someone else, he will no longer have this feeling for his marriage partner and, in any case, will shy away from intimate relationships.

As you can see, there are many reasons why a husband may shy away from intimate relationships. Do not rush to immediately think about the worst, but try to understand the reasons for these deviations. You cannot act correctly until you understand the true reasons. In the future, I want to answer the question “What to do when your husband avoids intimate relationships?”

Translation: Moses Natalya

I am 34 years old. My wife and I have been married for almost 10 years and are raising two wonderful children. Everything seems to be fine, if not for one BUT: my wife avoids intimacy. From the very beginning we did not have harmony in this regard, but every year the situation is only getting worse. Now it can be once a month or even less often, and with rare exceptions it’s difficult to call it closeness. Health problems arose while I had prostatitis, but when I did the ultrasound, the ultrasound specialist said that at this rate and with such abstinence, I was guaranteed to have prostate adenoma in 5 years. We tried to talk about this topic many times. She is very difficult to talk to, everything very quickly turns to tears. She says that she understands everything, that she is a bad wife and does not fulfill her marital duty, but she also cannot bring herself to do it. She says that this topic is not pleasant to her at all, and after years of “stress”, she already generally hates the word sex. I can walk around offended for weeks, she feels it, feels that I NEED, that I’m WAITING, and this causes the opposite effect on her. Both are tired of all this to the point of horror: I am fixated, she is too. We have been fighting against this wall for years, in despondency, in resentment (especially me) and life is passing away... She says that she lives with children, all thoughts are only about them. He respects me very much, appreciates me, values ​​me, but there is no physical interest.

But without this problem, I would not have come to God! In recent years, I began to go to church more and more often, to confess, take communion, fast, and listen to spiritual music. The wife also believes in God, but does not go to church and does not fast. Faith certainly helps and supports, but not always: lust, fornication, condemnation, despondency - all this torments the soul, if not constantly, but very often. We are not married - maybe this is partly the reason? I would have gotten married a long time ago, but my wife says she doesn’t want to, that she’s not ready. Maybe this is my cross that I must humbly bear? If this is so, then I lack the spiritual strength to accept it. Plus, I constantly repeat in my head the words of the Apostle Paul: “Do not turn away from one another, except during times of fasting and prayer”...

Last Lent, what I would call a miracle happened. At some point, towards the end of Lent, I felt a surge of Grace so clearly, I simply became a different person. It was as if wings had grown: all the grievances and condemnations were gone, everything around was simply transformed, my heart was filled with love and joy. She immediately felt it and changed too. We (albeit during Lent) had such intimacy as we had not had for many years! After Easter everything went away and all the problems returned. However, I saw what our relationship could be, what it should be... So, maybe the causes of the problems should be looked for first of all in ourselves? Maybe the problem is on a spiritual level?

They say that fornication kills love. Although I have never really cheated on my wife, I am constantly in my thoughts. But where can I get this grace now, when there is only resentment and despondency in my soul? I had an appointment with a sex therapist. She says that the problem is with the wife, on a psychological level or even on a physiological level, and that until she solves these problems, nothing will change. I still lean towards the first reason (spiritual harmony), but I’m not sure. She always had a terrible relationship between her parents. Maybe this is what laid the foundation for the wrong attitude towards the intimate side of married life and the reason is on a psychological level?

Unfortunately, many married couples face difficulties in their intimate lives, and some husbands complain that their wives are completely untemperamental. And yet, it is important to note that this is a rather rare case when a woman herself has rather low sexual activity. It often happens that husbands who consider their wife cold or almost frigid are surprised to learn that she has a lover. Why does this happen, and how to avoid it?

Why a woman doesn't want a man - the most common reasons

So, consider the most obvious cases due to which a woman may avoid intimacy with her partner.

You've been together too long, your feelings have cooled down

You have been together for more than a month and the former passion, of course, has already been left behind. Some couples, even after several years of marriage, maintain passion in their intimate relationships and “warm up” each other’s feelings, but for this you need to have a mutual desire, constantly show imagination and initiative - for many people this is almost impossible work. And yet, it is important to note that even if you have been together for a long time, there is no extravaganza going on in your relationship, and you are doing nothing to correct this state of affairs, this does not mean that everything is lost for your relationship. If you still live under the same roof, then you have a chance to correct the situation. Remember that everyday life and habit have become enemies to harmony in the relationships of many couples, and this can be changed if desired.

The wife is pregnant or has not yet recovered from a recent birth

The period of waiting for a baby and the first months of life often becomes a happy time in the life of most married couples. And yet, during these months, many spouses are forced to face some restrictions in their intimate lives. Not every husband treats this situation with understanding and patience, which gives rise to conflicts in the family and pushes the woman away even more. Please note that during pregnancy, abstaining from sex is not a woman’s whim, but a serious doctor’s recommendation! You can prove as much as you like that the quality of intimate life of a colleague and his wife has not changed with the onset of pregnancy, but do not forget that each organism is individual, and in contrast to your story, your wife can tell how her friend ended up in a hospital bed after sexual contact with husband. Sometimes, indeed, a woman can refuse intimacy with her husband even without the advice of a gynecologist. Perhaps she intuitively feels that this will not have the best effect on the pregnancy and is afraid for the child (forgive her for this suspiciousness, she wants it to be better), or her libido has decreased, and she really just doesn’t want sex to the point of disgust. The second option, indeed, is common among many pregnant women, and they cannot do anything about it.

Family or work takes all the spouse’s strength

The wife gets so tired at work or while doing family affairs that she simply has no physical strength left for the intimate sphere of her life. There are women who manage to do everything in the world and feel great, almost without sitting down for a minute during the day. Often such energetic individuals grow out of hyperactive girls. And yet, do not forget that it is not for nothing that most women are considered weak and fragile creatures. Of course, this does not mean that they do not need to do anything at work and at home so that their husband can periodically enjoy sex with them, but still, they are often really forced to take on responsibilities that are beyond their strength.

What families usually face this problem? Option one: in the morning the wife goes to work, where she spends the bulk of the day performing her work duties. She comes home at about the same time as her husband (even if a little earlier). After work, she goes to the stove, cooks dinner, does minor housework, checks on her child's homework, or does anything else that doesn't involve just sitting on the couch. What does your husband do after work? He rests, believing that his wife is engaged in completely unburdensome “womanly responsibilities.” Having rested and gained strength after a working day, a man is ready for sexual exploits, while his life partner dreams of only one thing - to sleep. Some husbands are indignant that sex is not work, “lie down and have fun,” and yet the woman thinks so - no matter how you look at it, you need to show at least some kind of physical activity. If a woman is very tired during the day, then thoughts about sex do not excite her at all, and the most pleasant picture she can imagine is taking a hot bath and a sweet dream.

You are no longer an attractive macho man to her.

Your appearance has changed significantly since your first dates with your wife. And we are not talking about natural age-related changes - gray hair or wrinkles. Surely, you know examples of how, with age, some men, on the contrary, acquire a special attraction for women. Many celebrities can serve as an example, including Robert Downey Jr., George Clooney, Tom Cruise and others. These men did not give a damn about themselves, and still remain the heroes of women's dreams. Can you say that you look sexy and alluring to the opposite sex (not just your wife)? Some people, both men and women, once married, stop taking care of their appearance, believing that since they have found their other half, they no longer need to attract the attention of other potential partners. This is a big mistake, because if you stopped taking care of yourself, then you probably lost attractiveness not only to other women, but also to your spouse.

The wife often remains unsatisfied after sex

Some women tell their spouse about this right at the beginning of the relationship or at a time when the quality of their sex life with him begins to deteriorate. If a man does not pay due attention to this problem, then over time, having lost hope that the situation can change, the wife stops expressing her complaints or hinting at them, and instead simply tries to avoid intimacy, not feeling satisfaction from it. Please note that if a woman does not get real pleasure from sex with a man, then she considers such time spent with him to be simply wasted time. The wife may not show this for the first months or even years, but later it will become increasingly difficult for her to hide her disappointment and irritation.

The wife has a lover

This is the saddest development of events that can happen for you in this situation. Of course, it is quite difficult to justify a woman who decided to have an affair on the side, but still you should not shift the responsibility in this situation solely to your partner. Think carefully, could it be that in some way you are also to blame for the fact that your wife has a lover? Were you both satisfied with the quality of your family sexual life? did you give your wife the attention she needed? Have you yourself been involved in any kind of affair on the side in the past? Have you created an unbearable emotional atmosphere in the house, as a result of which your wife could begin to look for an outlet on the side? Can you say that she looked like a truly happy woman next to you? Give yourself an honest answer to these questions.

If your wife does have a lover, then this fully explains why she avoids intimacy with you. When it comes to cheating, men and women behave differently. A man can be spurred on by his affair on the side, as a result of which his intimate life with his wife becomes richer and more varied. Women act completely differently - they often focus their attention on only one man. In this case we are talking about a lover. Having received from a new partner what she lacked in marriage, a woman can sincerely fall in love with this man and even believe that by having sex with her husband, she is cheating on “her man.”

Be that as it may, if a woman nevertheless decides to take this step, you have little chance of improving relationships in the family, and, most likely, for a number of reasons, in the end you will still have to separate.

What to do if a wife refuses intimacy with her husband

Of course, such behavior on the part of the spouse cannot be without reason. Try to figure out what exactly dictates your wife’s reluctance to have intimacy with you. In fact, there may be several options.

Find out the reasons for not wanting to sleep together

The easiest way to clarify this question is to ask your wife directly. Find a good time to talk. This conversation should not begin when you or your spouse are irritated or one of you is feeling tired. In this state of affairs, most likely you will face either a scandal or a crumpled and completely unproductive conversation. It would be most appropriate to invite your spouse to a romantic dinner and raise an issue that concerns you in a relaxed atmosphere. Please note that your conversation should not sound like an interrogation with partiality - in this way, you risk only ruining the evening. After a glass of wine, seeing that your wife is relaxed and happy with the evening, offer to talk about what is bothering you. Immediately explain that you are not making a complaint to her, but just want to understand in which direction you should move so that your family life becomes better and suits both of you. If your spouse is not in the mood for a conversation, do not put pressure on her or show aggression. Drop the topic and don't let this evening end badly. Undoubtedly, your wife will appreciate such a step, and next time she will be more open with you.

Take on all men's responsibilities

Often the reasons why a woman refuses sex with her husband lie on the surface, but the man simply does not want to notice them, quite rightly not seeing the connection between a broken refrigerator and his wife’s reluctance to have intimacy. And yet, it is useful for many husbands to know that if they refuse to take on male responsibilities with enviable regularity, delaying the solution of the problem as much as possible, then, sadly, the woman ceases to see him as a man. As a result, this extends to other areas of life - not just household ones. As soon as you begin to monitor the serviceability of the appliances in the house, do not shirk your wife’s requests and your obvious responsibilities, you will begin to notice how your spouse’s attitude gradually begins to change. As a result, solving your problem may turn out to be much simpler than you think.

Help her in everyday life and with children

For some time now, it has become the custom that some families (mainly at the suggestion of men) have divided responsibilities into male and female. what does it usually look like? A man nails a nail once a season and repairs a junk TV, and a woman devotes several hours of her life every day to cleaning, cooking, washing, ironing, doing homework with the children, and the like. This situation is tolerable when a woman has the status of a housewife, and the man is the only breadwinner in the family. However, such situations often occur in families where husband and wife work almost equally, only the husband rests after work, and the wife “takes over the second shift.” Over time, a woman begins to understand that it is very difficult for her in such a marriage, and begins to think about divorce as “liberation.” For many men, such a problem seems far-fetched, and meanwhile, more and more women feel unhappy and tired, and, accordingly, in this situation it is quite difficult to be inflamed with passion for their spouse.

Make her feel loved and wanted

Let your beloved woman, being next to you, feel that she once married you for a reason, and now she is as desirable to you as at the very beginning of the relationship. How to achieve this? First of all, do not forget about compliments, which many husbands begin to neglect over time in their family life. Pay attention if your wife has a new hairstyle or simply styled her hair in an unusual way; if she smells of pleasant perfume; talk about how beautiful her smile and eyes are (this is nice to hear not only in the initial stages of dating). In general, compliment not only her culinary skills, as often happens in marriage - “The borscht was especially successful today,” “The meat was well baked,” “What a lush pie!” and so on - but also her appearance. Even if you don’t notice any special changes in your wife, say nice words to her - this can become a great motivation for her to become better and more beautiful, because she will know that “her husband notices.”

Give compliments and flowers

Compliments have already been mentioned, but this is precisely the topic that requires especially close attention, and it should not be remembered in passing, but learned well - it is really very important for a woman to hear words of admiration from a man. Have you ever thought about how a lover usually appears in the life of a woman? It often looks like this: the wife is tired of everyday life and has not felt attention and delight from her husband for a long time. All their topics come down to children, food, cleaning. taking out the trash, repairs and other topics devoid of any romance. Then a “small miracle” happens in a woman’s life: a certain man tells her that she has luxurious hair or eyes “the color of cornflowers.” From that moment on, she begins to think about these words, about this man - she remembers that she is not only a caring mother, wife and housewife, but also a woman who can evoke romantic thoughts in a man. If she has enough romance and family life, then she will simply ignore any characteristic of her smile, eyes and melodic laughter.

Give your beloved woman flowers, make unusual surprises for her, talk about how loved and desired she is, pay attention to changes in appearance, express delight, say kind words, and you will become the best man for her, Whom it is impossible not to desire.

Pleasantly surprise her in bed with new caresses or positions

Over time, the fulfillment of marital duty for many couples becomes somehow mechanical. Everything goes according to a “knurled pattern”, and takes a minimum amount of time or looks rather monotonous. Each sexual act is similar to the previous one, and practically does not cause any trepidation in both the husband and wife. You are quite capable of correcting this situation. Please note that new experiments should not be started when the wife collapses after a hard day at work. It’s best to arrange a romantic evening for the two of you, relax with a glass of wine, “warm up” the woman with affectionate words, and only then get down to business.

This evening, make a point for yourself - first of all, you want to please your wife in bed. Surely, during your married life you have managed to study the erogenous zones of your beloved. Now you can experience new caresses in these areas by first watching an erotic film (choose a project that is popular with the female audience). You can also read relevant literature or ask your beloved if she has any fantasies in this regard. Experiment with the pose, but this night should not be like a beginner acrobat's course - you should not try many innovations at once, in such conditions it is quite difficult for a woman to concentrate and begin to enjoy the process.

What does Orthodoxy say about this?

The Orthodox Church encourages the fulfillment of marital duty - this is a natural phenomenon between loving spouses. It is also worth noting that the church classifies adultery as a sin and, therefore, treats it negatively. In addition, any priest will tell you that during Lent it is better to abstain from intimacy, although there are no strict instructions on this matter - such abstinence should be a mature decision of the husband and wife, which is not dictated by fear of punishment.

• Talk to each other. Most problems turn out to be completely solvable when husband and wife start talking about them with each other and try to find the best compromise. The conversation, of course, should not take place in a raised voice - it is important to choose the right time for dialogue, without putting pressure on your partner, without expressing your displeasure and irritation, but sincerely trying to understand what ways there are to solve an unpleasant situation.
• A change of scenery. In many families, problems begin due to the fact that relationships become bogged down in everyday issues and cease to have any variety. Until you reach the “boiling point,” it is best to change the disgusting environment and forget about your home and work responsibilities for a while, devoting your attention exclusively to each other. The easiest way to do this is on vacation - allow yourself at least a short trip (weekend), and make such outings your family tradition - this will only have a positive effect on your marriage. Go on tours that suit both of you - otherwise the trip may become another reason for a quarrel. Example: a husband loves a relaxing beach holiday, and his wife loves going to museums and exhibitions, but the choice is made in accordance with the preferences of only one of the parties.
• Notice your mistakes. Many families are faced with misunderstanding in relationships and cooling of feelings, due to the fact that they try to shift the blame for a collapsing family onto the shoulders of the partner. If you notice this feature in yourself, then you should seriously reconsider your views. Don't think about how bad your partner is, and how many difficulties have arisen in your marriage solely due to his fault. It is much more productive to start solving the problem with yourself. Think about what you can do for your marriage, for your other half, to improve the atmosphere in the family. Your partner, noticing that you are putting pressure on him and not demanding “feats”, but instead trying for the good of the family, will probably be able to draw the right conclusions for himself and begin to follow your example.

According to scientific research, love lasts three years. It is during this period that grinding in and getting used to each other occurs. A similar thing happens with intimate life: at first you are exhausted with desire, disturb your neighbors’ sleep, enjoying each other as on your wedding night, and after a while the passion subsides.

It is then that your sex turns into a marital duty, and its regular absence intuitively makes it clear that there is a crisis in family relationships. Let's understand what marital duty entails, together with the Svadbaholik.ru portal.

The law on marital debt: legal or moral side?

By entering into marriage, spouses undertake to comply with regulations that are closely related to strengthening the family union, caring for material well-being, and equal fulfillment of responsibilities for the upbringing and development of children.

Moral aspects of the concept of marital duty

What is marital duty under the law? This term is now considered only from a moral point of view, because from a legal point of view, there are no fixed obligations of an intimate nature to spouses.

Marital duty performed by husband and wife is not only regular sex, but also constant joint work to maintain family relationships. Intimate relationships in marriage without love, mutual understanding and care turn into a routine that kills the feelings of the spouses.

Relationships in an official or civil marriage are not a candy-bouquet period, because there are many factors that can affect their quality. These may include living together with parents, having children in the family, mentally and physically exhausting work, fatigue, etc. However, if there is love in a marriage, all obstacles can be overcome together.

Where did the “debt” come from?

The origin and true meaning of the concept of “marital duty” is still unknown. There are only some guesses as to why sex in marriage, which should bring pleasure, is called duty.

Previously, when the concept of love marriage practically did not exist, women were married for convenience, including for debts. It is logical to assume that somewhere during that period this slightly contradictory phrase arose.

The wife refuses to fulfill her marital duty: possible reasons

Failure to fulfill marital duties most often offends men. Someone begins to consider his wife untemperamental, cold, sometimes even frigid, and then he is almost surprised to learn that she has a lover.

The other, on the contrary, makes up for the lack of thrills on the side. Why is this happening? Let's find out the reasons why a wife refuses to fulfill her marital duty, because they often become the main reasons for divorce, as www.site found out: